As the year ends, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the future. We make plans, rally up resolutions, and decide this year will be different. We will eat healthier, drink less, and smile more. Fresh starts, new beginnings.
But are we repeating past mistakes? Are you getting ready to make the same old resolutions again? If we didn’t do it before, why do we think we can do it this time? What’s changed? Who says this year will be different? Most resolutions will fail. So what will we do differently this year?
This year, before you make a single resolution, look back with a open heart and a reflective mind over the past year. As the sayings go, “history repeats itself.” so we must “we learn from our mistakes”. Without understanding where you have come from, it is very hard to get where you want to go. Transition and transformation need to be grounded in the past you.
Honor the past year by celebrating your joys, mourning your losses, and pausing in awe at the wonder of it all. We tend to punish ourselves for the smallest missteps or failures, without seeing our successes. Without an honest assessment of both failures and successes, there is no moving forward. Know your weakness and where you trip and fall, and know what triggers you to make the same unhealthy choices over and over again. Know what brings you joy and foster the things that bring bliss. Without that understanding, change is much harder.
“The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant
So before you chart your future, reflect on the past that brought you here. You are part of an unbroken lineage of survivors from the single-cell organisms that emerged in the waters of the Earth 4 billion years ago. You are a beautiful impossibility. The New Year is a blank book, and the pen is in your hands. It is your chance to write a beautiful story for yourself. Happy New Year.