Is Forgiveness a Good or a Bad Thing?

Life has a funny way of teaching you lessons. You live your life through your experiences. This past year, life has certainly done that for me. The question is what do you do with experiences and how do you learn from them?

As 2011 is coming to a close I’ve been looking at my actions as well as others. I believe everyone is either meant to be in your life for a reason or for a season. Be thankful for both.

Have you ever seen someone by chance whom you weren’t expecting to see? You were in the right place at the right time? Coincidence? I think not. The universe has a great way of having people show up in your life when you need them most.

I’d like to share a story with you. I recently had an urge to forgive someone I hadn’t spoken to in five years. I’ve heard speakers talk about how not forgiving someone hurts you more than the person you were upset with. I had personal experiences that kept telling me that I need to forgive this person. Finally, after fighting it I let go and wrote an apology letter for being stubborn and asked this person to forgive me. I can’t tell you how good it made me feel and how healing it was. Not even a week later of reconnecting with this person after those five years when I couldn’t, her husband passed away.

I am blessed that I was in a position to be there for her and to be the friend I wanted to be. There are no coincidences in life. You have the option to be angry or live your life at peace. Imagine all the “I’m sorry’s” and “I forgive you’s” that my friend’s husband never got the chance to say. Live life in the moment and be grateful for everyone one in it.

I have learned that sometimes you need to let go of your ego and let someone back into your life just because. Every experience in your life has taught you something good or bad. I have learned that having compassion over resentment makes me a better person. Holding onto it serves no one. You never know what an “I’m sorry “or “I forgive you” can do. You could be a pivot able change in the life of another. Have an open heart and forgive. It the greatest reward you could give yourself. I’ve shared a story that is close to me. I ask that you find a person you’ve held anger towards and forgive them. But really mean it. Please share with me and everyone reading this blog how forgiving someone changed your life or someone else’s? What did you learn from it?

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